I had a long conversation with 2 friends the other day. We were chatting over dinner with all sorts of topics in between. One of the topics was about relationships.
One of them told me that he wouldn’t have divorced his wife if he could turn back time. He realized how good his wife was to him – treated him nice and took good care of the family, his son. He didn’t cherish her back then and instead, he swayed.
Now, after being with someone else, he still felt his ex-wife was the best. But, it is too late now. He regretted but his ex-wife has moved on.
I supposed that only when someone has ‘loss’ his or her loved one - the person who used to play an important role in his/her life, this person will cherish the loss.
The conversation went on that night and another sub-topic was brought up. I was told (and we were discussing) that at times, we do not change ourselves just to fit others and vice versa. We can change our exterior, but not what's inside us. This is because humans cannot change their own character and personality – as cliché as it sounds – a leopard will never lose its spots. Why does someone want to put themselves in agony and depression, just to make a change for the other party to be happy and satisfied? And what if the other party still felt that the change wasn’t good enough? What does this person get at the end?
So, the conclusion that my friend made that night was to just live happily, be happy with yourself and be yourself. There are heaps of people out there who will fit your cup nicely (a description was used for a relationship, we are as if a cup and its lid). It is pointless to keep a lid which is loose for the cup or broken.
I agree. What say you?
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